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DISC PERSONALITY TYPES OVERVIEW

DISC personality types, good relationships, abuse, understand, accept people

 Below is information on the four basic personality types. When you understand the DISC personality types, you begin to understand how a normal person thinks, acts and feels. Now you can understand how to accept him, how to act and speak to improve your relationship with him. You change him from a difficult person to a nice person all in how you learn to relate to him. 

There is much more, but a DISC overview can be helpful as a reference. This does not apply to a toxic, abusive narcissist, just difficult people whom you find hard to understand. It just helps you recognize what you are dealing with. A direct person will seem abusive to some personalities, but it is just how one person speaks and how the other person perceives it. Look at "How Others View You" to understand more of this concept. However, knowing the personality helps to recognize some of the tricks the narcissistic or abusive person uses. 

D – DIRECT OBSERVATIONS

Busy, messy desk

Status symbol cars

Trophies

Certificates

Formality

Calendars

Planners

Steady eye contact

Strong hand shake

Piles of paper

Comfortable dress

D – DIRECT COMMUNICATION

Tells instead of asks

Is practical

Wants the bottom line

Confronts

Feels unsympathetic

Acts impatiently

Decides quickly 

Interrupts

Thinks logically

Speaks bluntly 

D – DIRECT STRATEGIES

Be brief and to the point

Help or get out of his way

Help him “win”

Let him be in control of his life

Give him a varied routine 

Agree on a goal

Compliment him on results 

Argue with conviction, use facts  

Be confrontational if needed

I – INFLUENTIAL OBSERVATIONS

Totally disorganized office

Animated expressions

Awards on walls

Dramatic 

Messy desk

Papers all over

Participator

Comfortable chairs

Dress with flair 

Bright colors usually red

Motivational posters 

Warm, friendly 

Certificates of accomplishment

Family photos everywhere

I – INFLUENTIAL COMMUNICATION

Talks about feelings

Has a poor concept of time

Tells interesting stories

Speaks informally

Varies a loud, dramatic voice

Is opinionated

Distracts easily

Talks fast

Exaggerates

Tells instead of asks

Is interested in your reaction

I – INFLUENTIAL STRATEGIES

Share his feelings

Show you admire him

Be optimistic

Compliment him often

Keep up a fast, lively

Varied pace

Avoid arguing

Give him extra time to do a job 

Help him follow through with

      plans 

Be non-aggressive

Be enthusiastic, appreciative  

Avoid details, focus on the big picture

Give him opportunities to talk to others

S – STEADY OBSERVATIONS

Calm, serene pictures & posters

Nostalgic memorabilia 

Side-by-side seating

Friendly, warm atmosphere

Certificates of volunteering 

Conservative dress

Personal items everywhere 

Family & group photos 

    everywhere 

S – STEADY COMMUNICATION

Listens more than speaks

Has warm, caring tone & words

Speaks slowly

Uses Indirect eye contact 

Speaks, acts non-threateningly 

Asks not tells

Starts with small talk 

Speaks with steady, even voice  

Asks opinion before deciding

Doesn’t talk about himself

S – STEADY STRATEGIES

 

Walk him through the process 

Help him create a plan of action

Minimize risk

Help him get started 

Use reason and logic 

Use outlines

Be non-aggressive 

Encourage him

Give a lot of time before making

     changes

C – CAUTIOUS OBSERVATIONS

Neat, Organized desk, office

Functional, practical work area 

Formal actions

Latest technology available 

Conservative colors, clothes 

Expressionless

Charts, graphs on walls

Objects within reach

Indirect eye contact




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C – CAUTIOUS COMMUNICATION

Never discusses feelings 

Has formal words and

     sentences

Talks using facts

Has consistent tone & voice 

Shows few facial expressions 

Over-explains

Shows few gestures

Has focused discussions

Answers slowly

Thinks before speaking

C – CAUTIOUS STRATEGIES


Use reasoning, logic, facts

Approach in a non -threatening

    way 

Give explanations

Give instructions in writing 

Allow him to ask all his 

    questions

Be brief, to the point

Compliment his accuracy 

Allow him to think before 

    answering

Answer “why” & “how” 

    questions

Let him think before making a 

    decision

Compliment him on his

    thoroughness

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